Opinion

Why people hate you

When you remember the time you were young, your parents and other relatives cared for you. They loved you just because they did not know anything bad about you. That is not all; they sometimes disliked you for your disturbance. If you used to cry, they might have hated you.

As you have grown up enough, the world is seemly moving away from you. You are wondering why people are leaving you but fail to understand. It is because you are developing to be someone mature.

Maybe you are ugly or beautiful, rich or poor, cruel or friendly, so they hate you for these reasons. People hate because you have something that they don’t have like money, dress or food.

They look at your uniqueness, fame, your popularity, your friends, your career, etc. and think that you are not well-intentioned of these things, because they are only looking at things at surface level. They are too senseless to analyze how you sweated to achieve. They don’t care about the hard work you had put in behind the prospects. They don’t think about all your sacrifices, your worries, temptations, letups and downs, your fears and the pains you had gone through. When you have experienced some little changes, they would get jealous and envy of your fortune.

They see life as some kind of competition. They compare themselves with you to find out who is more popular, richer, who has more friends, who has more dates, who has the better job, and they want to win. Their excitement to do better than you is not based on their passion towards life, but stems from their fear of losing to you and being seen as failure in their own eyes. They sort of made you their goal, and the further the distance between you and them, the more they hate. That’s why your haters never want to hear that you are doing well in anything.

Maybe you have been in a friendship or relationship and you were important to a person and you broke his/her heart. And even after all this time, the wounds never really heal completely, and perhaps, never will.  Haters are people who don’t care, but they do so far too much. Sometimes you could feel that they care more about you and the things you do than you care about yourself, and they care about what other people think of you more than you actually do.

What haters are most afraid of is stillness. They feel their being when they know that you heard their voice. So don’t talk back or argue with them. They would only get more excited. Don’t try to reason with them. They won’t bother listening. They just need your response to know that someone actually cares about what they think or what they have to say.

No matter, they will always think of themselves as the better person compared to you. They would use your past against you, judge and criticize you using their own morals and values, and dismiss any good that you do. They don’t feel the need for humility when talking to you because they believe that they will always be (more) right. But we all know that such beings do make the biggest hypocrites around.

They are jealous people. They curse and wish for your downfall because they want you to lose the things you have that they don’t. They see life as a zero-sum game. They think, perhaps if you lose a couple of friends/fans, they could gain some themselves. And if they can’t have the things you have, they rather you not have them at all as well. Do you need to worry? If you are hated, there must be a reason. Check yourself. Revive your attitudes. Do you talk politely; do you dress decently and respect people? These are the questions you should be asking yourself with. It is one of the two things either hating you for bad or good things you do. Never give up. Don’t even revenge. They are not your enemies. Just make them your friends. Take accuses for correction. Feel free not to surrender to all what they say but move on with your life.

The writer is a high school student reachable via: akol.akol49@gmail.com

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