WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR A CHILD’S WAYWARDNESS
With Odongo Odoyo
Sometime and in most cases, parents end up spoiling their own children knowingly or not but in most cases such parents are always on the defensive justifying this or that while well aware that the signs of their acts were the cause of discomfort among the family members. Yes, it is good to provide to children but it should be under strict observation and discipline that the youth should be molded to follow. We do not leave in isolation and when a neighbour or a teacher tells one to watch and take care of the child, then it is time to take stock that something could be seriously wrong and start paying attention to your child. Experts have outlined a number of remedies to be taken when such cases are detected or are expected to be in the do. There are a number of them but for this argument.’ I would wish to bring out what psychology highlights as the eight reasons why parents are responsible for their children’s waywardness:
1.) Parent who give their children everything they ask for: Their children will grow up thinking they have a right to whatever they want.
2.) Parents who laugh when their children speak foul language against others, especially older persons: Children grow up thinking disrespect is normal and fun.
3.) Parents who do not reprimand children for bad behavior: Their children grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4.) Parents who cover up their children’s misdeeds: Their children grow up thinking they can do and undo with impunity; that they won’t have to give account of their misdeeds.
5.) Parents who stop watching television because their children cry when they change channels: Children will grow up without a sense of respect for older persons.
6.) Parents who let their children listen to music that objectivizes women, encourages sex and violence? You can’t sow thorns and reap cotton, can you?
7.) Parents who give their children money whenever they want: Such kids will grow up thinking money is easy to get and would steal when they can’t get it correctly.
8.) Parents who always decide everything in favour of their children, whether they are right or not: Their children will grow up thinking that every correction is persecution.
There are many parents in various groups who do not know these things. Albert Einstein said this:
“The world is dangerous to live in, not because of those who hurt, but because of those who watch and let it happen. “Then, Desmond TUTU also said this:”If you are neutral in a situation of injustice, it is because you have chosen the camp of the oppressor” and Martin Luther King said this. “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. What frightens me is not the oppression of the wicked, but the indifference of the good. …. then, in the end, we will remember, not the evils of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” Where or which one would you choose if the world was left open to “go getters”