Opinion

Signs of immature men

Rejecting food when there’s an issue:
Mr. husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refused to eat because you are angry. It’s one of the greatest signs of immaturity; it’s time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don’t allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.

Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head? You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN, ALJAZEERA OR SSBC? It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

Issuing threats:

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.”

Reporting your wife to friends and family:

When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. By the way, are you a reporter? Answer my question?

 Keeping malice:

Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticize, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a “big boy” who’s in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.

Not helping with house chores:
I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home when she chooses to be a full time house wife.
However, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you’ll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Some men don’t even say “thank You” to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It’s a shame that after having 3-4 kids some
men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal meals; a big shame.

CHEATING and BOASTING:

It is shameful enough that you made yourself a public toilet and an ATM to some other cheap ladies like you, now you also have the gut to brag about it when you are in the midst of friends….The worst part is that many claim that it is in men nature to cheat…. Helloooo, tell that to some naive and hopeless women that doesn’t have a stand and doesn’t know their value & worth. Every MAN or WOMAN has the tendency to cheat, the ability to suppress that feeling means you have self control. The same way you lust over another man’s wife or girlfriend is same way your woman lust over another man but she still controls her feelings, why can’t you do same?
Look, cheating is cheap and only cheap men cheat. My point?
A REAL man is a pillar of support to his wife, not a hole of depression.

Most habits we see in this generation in men were learnt from our fathers. They had the mentality that a woman is a property and not a helper. The mentality that her place is in the kitchen. She belongs there. She is not entitled to her opinion. His word is final even if he is wrong. And if he is wrong, he releases it on his wife by punching her, and kicking her in front of the children, shamelessly calling her bad names.

MORAL:

1Peter 3: from verse 7.

We learn the duty of a husband, is to love and protect his wife as Christ loved the church.

Husband is the Bishop, wife is the pastor and children are the evangelists.

The work of the bishop is to give directives to pastors about the church governance. The pastor’s work is to govern the church. Evangelists are to go out preach and do the soul winning, bringing people to the church.

Same way, Husband (Bishop) gets directives from God and the passes the same to the wife (Pastor), and the wife to the children (Evangelists). If you want to know a good family, see what the children are doing when playing outside. You will definitely tell a good family.

Men. Grow up and fear God. God blessed you with a beautiful wife and wonderful children. RAISE UP A GOOD FAMILY.

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