Saying thank you is surely vibrant
By Zack Mayul
In our daily life, there are certain things that we tend not to embrace from time to time. Some, it is out of sheer ignorance, or sometime, it is because of their minimum weights they carry on our minds.
The word is ‘thank you.’
How often do you use certain words on certain people that you don’t belong to the same age, social, financial or academic structure?
A thank you that people use mostly in their daily life; is when someone does a favor to me or to you. For example, if Kembe asks his employer, Deng, to carry out some duties in his office whilst away on a date with Nyabach. Finally, he would be forced to say “thank you,” or, if the fans turns up in large numbers after Silver X has advertised his show in one of the popular clubs in Juba, then he will have the guts to say “thank you for supporting my music”.
However, it is possible to say that; in every Jubian’s live (residents), at least 80% hardly say thank you willingly. Only a sheer percentage would occasionally manage to say thank you to bus conductors or shopkeepers after they have delivered the needed service or provided exactly what they needed them to be served with. Maybe in big hotels or bars where waiters and waitresses are taught the etiquettes to embrace such words, but with the case of conductors and taxi drivers or the bodaboda fellas, it is rare too for them to utter the word to their clients.
Sometime it isn’t because we expect something in return when we say thanks, but thank you is a none monetary form of motivation for rewarding those who serve us to do it better or never stop doing it exactly the same way in the future. Just imagine, if Silver X does not express his gratitude after show, it is possible that one of his fans or two who noticed this could possibly fabricate it and make this a headline on social media: maybe, branding the artist as an arrogant or rude or any ill word that could possibly come out of his/her keyboard. Just the same thing, Deng might fail to do the work exactly the way it’s wanted on behalf of his boss, Kembe, who is out on a date with Nyabach maybe because Kembe didn’t encourage him well.
A thank you note or just a word of mouth sometimes show some sense of recognition or determines the level of maturity that certain bosses have towards their juniors or the vice versa. Meaning, if the passenger thanks the conductor or the driver after a safety delivery, then s/he is actually appreciating that driver or conductor’s effort to do it more better next time to him/her or to others. When we say this to office cleaners, cooks or gatekeepers, it doesn’t reduce our dignity or make us less respected by people we have the same status.
It doesn’t have to be only your parents that you should thank anyway, it doesn’t have to be your cousin who appreciate how well you have written a funny tweet on your Twitter or Facebook wall either, neither should it be your aunt who bought you a pair of suits and shoes last Christmas; it is that fellow driver who allowed you to go first on that narrow road in Kator, it is that waitress that humbly brought you coffee immediately after ordering, it is that mathematics teacher that marked your kid’s exams last term and gave corrections for him/her to go through and learn from where she/he failed to understand; and of course, it is that cook that brings you tea in your office when you badly need it.
It isn’t about the people that are of the same level or tribe, nor should it be people who are superior to us. It can be people of any kind, shopkeepers, and gatekeepers, our personal drivers, people in dry cleaning service business, bosses, our kids or siblings when they make right decisions, or junior employees who does things perfectly out of their own wills.
So, how often do you say thank you?