Let there be forgiveness
You are in the world which is confused by the devil. Satan has powers to put evils in people’s lives and use them for destroying their spiritual lives. It makes confusions and misunderstandings. Sometimes, your friend could just wrong you with no intention and it is clear that forgiving someone who has mistreated or wronged you is hard, isn’t it? So, how do you forgive someone who has hurt you? You may think that it is not possible to forgive because he/she reminds you of the mistake they did to you anytime you see them. There are always feelings burning like fire inside you.
Despite all the doubts that prevent you from forgiving a person, there are ways to embark on the journey of forgiveness in order to release yourself from past hurts and rid yourself of any emotional gear which may be weighing you down and holding you back.
You should first know the real meaning or the definition of Forgiveness but trying to show it.
You might think that forgiveness is only the matters of saying yes “I forgive you.” No! There is a certain way you act to let the wrongdoer know that you have freed your heart from keeping the problem.
Forgiveness is about releasing up and putting to better use the energy that is being consumed by holding on to hatreds, hiding offenses, and nursing old wounds. Forgiveness is about moving on without thinking about the old things. Forgiveness is about choosing calmness and happiness over righteous anger. Forgiveness is about refusing to replay past hurts in your mind over and over again, like a broken record. Forgiveness is about realizing that anger and resentment don’t serve you well. Forgiveness is to give you a clean account.
Mostly you have come along those tough people who always say that they will not forgive until they go to the grave. What could be the reason? Maybe you also swear like them. How big is the mistake done to you? That is wise taking. Don’t act as if you have powers over others. As a human, you suppose to forgive because of many reasons but two important ones are that others would forgive you when you first forgive them and God the creator would also forgive you. What happens if you don’t make your heart pure and free of hatred and spirit of forgiveness? Your life doesn’t go well. The relationship between you gets disconnected.
Forgiveness is extending grace. It’s commanded by God, and it’s something you can do for others and for yourself. When you forgive, you give someone a gift and you give yourself the gift of happy-free living. When you withhold forgiveness, you don’t only refuse to offer what God has given to you, but you also hurt yourself. Forgiveness bears down on your heart and gets in the way of spiritual growth. God knows it’s not easy to forgive, but He wouldn’t ask you to do something without giving you the strength to do it! Ask Him for the ability to forgive freely as you have been forgiven. He’s the Master of the impossible!
What do you think would happen if you don’t feel like forgiving others? You will not be free.
However there are times you don’t feel like forgiving those who have wronged you. It is easier to act your way into feeling than to feel your way into acting. Having a nature of not forgiving others brings about bitterness. By forgiving others, you free yourself spiritually and emotionally. Forgiveness is an act of your own personal will in obedience and submission to God’s will, trusting God to bring emotional healing.
How can you help those struggling with forgiveness?
People who have experienced abuse, trauma, or loss need time to sort things out and let God bring them to the place of forgiveness in His time. God’s timing is always the right time for each individual. The act of forgiving others is between us and God. The only time we need to forgive a person face-to-face is at the moment we are asked by that person to forgive them for the hurt they have caused.
There are things we can do to help those struggling with the forgiveness of others. We can support them with encouraging words and by listening to them. Taking our time and being tender with them will allow them to progress through the steps of forgiveness the way God wants them to proceed.
From God’s Word, He is asking you listen to the apologies of your friends to give them another chance such that they would change the way they behaved towards you. God is asking you to clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
By Akol Arop Akol
The writer is a high school student reachable via: firstname.lastname@example.org