Fighting is not a solution
Fighting happens when someone insults or hurts you. It may occur when there is misunderstanding. Have you ever fought? What was the root cause of the problem? No one can insult or hurt you without your permission or without opening your mouth to say something vulgar. Developing simple problems into big hatred can allow the devil to influence and use you as a source of confusion.
You should take easy and forgive. Let the past go forever. One of the golden keys to happiness and great success is the way you interpret complications which unfold before you. Highly successful people are masters of discernment. People who have attained greatness have an ability to develop and interpret negative or disempowering events as positive challenges which will assist them in growing and moving even farther the ladder of success. There are no negative experiences only experiences which aid in your development and toughen your character so that you may soar to new heights. You may not be doing favoritism to your friends but that doesn’t mean they should hate you for that. You must respect your personality and that of others too. If you consider yourself to be the best, onetime, you will be the last. Don’t fear to stand for the truth because it will set you free. There are no disappointments but if there is resistance then learn lessons.
Avoid being hostile. Interact with people. Friendship multiplies the goodness of life and divides the evils. You must take personal responsibility and you cannot change the circumstance but you can change yourself.
Fighting is not a solution and can never solve problems. If you are more sensible in your behaviours, hatred of people will not come around you. People all have different temperaments: short and long temper. You need to learn how to control your anger.
Learn how to talk politely and have the vacuum of conscience before you utter any single word because when you sheer a word, it will never be taken back to be unsaid.
Even if a person attacks you, don’t respond immediately. If they slap you on the left cheek, just turn the right cheek too.
Solving problems by fighting is like you want to save burning house by pouring fuel or diesel. Apparently, there is nothing you will benefit in fighting except injuries and hatred among your colleagues. It is one of the common blockages to your happiness in life. You will always remain in stress.
Try to abolish things such theft, robbery and murdering. Furthermore, the more you involve yourself in criminality, the more you spoil your daily life. You are condemning your own future. Whenever confusions happen, discuss them with two or more people to bring peace. If you fight, it is either you hurt your opponent or you will get punched.
You cannot have a breakthrough in life if you don’t forgive, reconcile and love your neighbour.
Progress starts with what you have in your hand and heart. They said wise people learn from mistakes. Hence look around and try to ask yourself why such are happening.
If your friend has very little reason to be mad at you and you have a big reason to be mad at them, be more mature than your friend. Don’t be the same. Feeling like the bigger person may even feel better than winning some petty fight.
If you have done something that has affronted your friend, accept it, say sorry and don’t argue with whatever fair retaliation your friend wants. If they want time, give them time, if they want you to keep apologizing, do it.
By Jovanto Aleu Garang