Opinion

Man, and woman who stood by him for years

By Odeh

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“This is what being a man is all about; success” he told his son. He stood with his son at the roof top of the new building he was in charge of constructing, he is a contractor…

Today is the official unveiling of this new building, the newest sky scrapper in the skyline…

“I am proud of you dad, the building looks amazing. You clearly executed the architect’s design” the son said to him…

“They are now saying I am amongst the best contractors in Africa. New Africa Magazine wants me on the cover of their next month’s issue. Son, when you grow up, be a hardworking man like me. I have set a good example for you” he told his son…

“If only you were as hardworking in your marriage” the son said…

“Today is the unveiling of my new building, don’t ruin it. Leave your mum out of this. What happens between your mum and dad is none of your business” he cautioned the son…

“Dad, I don’t mean to disrespect. But I don’t understand adults. You are so proud of a building, a non-living thing; yet you offer no leadership in the marriage that has lives involved. As humans, we build sky scrappers, rockets to the moon, satelites, smart phones, aeroplanes; yet to build marriages and families, we fail. I am starting to think marriages fail because we just don’t put any effort, we give up too easily” the son said…

The father said nothing, he just looked at the view from top of the building…

“Dad, you have been incharge of three hundred workers building this great sky scrapper; yet you can’t work with one woman that is your wife to build a family. Each day for the past two years, you have woken up and focused on this building despite all the challenges; can’t you give the same focus on your marriage? You have offered leadership and a building is now standing tall and proud; your marriage needs leadership too” the son continued…

The father looked at his son intently….

“Dad, I am really proud of you. I wish you more than model to me how to be a successful man, but also how to be a great husband. God is the architect of marriage, he has a blue print and design for marriage; why don’t you follow his design and work plan just like you followed the design of the architect who designed this building? Many buildings have been designed, but only the ones with the best contractors like you get to be fully executed. Many people get married, but only the marriages with the couples willing to make it work get to stand. Will you let your buidings and career stand proud while your marriage is in ruins or is shaky?” the son spoke further…

“How did you get to be this clever?” he asked his son…

“I am the son of the best contractor in Africa” the son answered…

They both laughter, the father placing his hand on the son’s shoulder…

The father looked to his right and saw his wife at a distance talking with the guests invited for the new building’s unveiling…

“Look at her, my wife. The woman who has stood by me for years, since my company was small. She has perfected the art of faking a smile, pretending to be happy. I don’t make her happy neither does she” the father said…

“Things can change dad” said the son…

The father looked again at the son, “It’s time to offer leadership at home too” said the father…

“Excuse me. Sir, may I take a photo of you?” A photo-journalist requested cutting short the conversation…

“Oh yes, sure. But it has to be a photo of me and my loving wife. Son, please go tell your mother I love her and need a photo taken with her” said the father…

The son walked to the mother smiling…

“And we need more of these father-son talks” added the father…

“Yes dad!” The son said walking faster…

The son whispered something to the mother. The mother looked at the father. Shocked; her husband has often pushed her away. She walked gracefully to the photographer and the husband, this time, wearing a genuine smile. Finally, is her husband showing leadership in their marriage?

No matter how much a woman wants her marriage to work, the marriage will lay in ruins if the head of the family offers no leadership.

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